Working Up

by Dwayne Phillips

There are a lot of changes I would like to see in other people. Despite that, the one person I can change is me.

I read many blog posts describing how to change people who need to be changed. Of course they need to be changed (not); they are keeping me from being esteemed as highly as deserved.

Let’s write this once:

The one person I can change is me.

Situation:  So-and-so acts such-and-such all the time, and that distracts me.

Change: Learn not to be distracted by such-and-such.

Situation: My boss yells too much.

Change: Learn to ignore yelling.

Situation: My office mate is selfish.

Change: Learn new expectations of my office mate.

Reply: Dwayne, you are putting everything on yourself and not requiring other people to act like adults.

Reply to Reply: That may be true, but I can’t change other people. I can change me.