Working Up

by Dwayne Phillips
There is a difference between gifts and contracts. Givers often confuse the two.
I just read several blog posts and comments about giving money to “poor” people only to see them half an hour later buying lottery tickets with the money. They givers were incensed as the poor had promised to buy food and [...]

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by Dwayne Phillips
Frenzied paralysis - so many things in my mind that I cannot do any of them. I make a list to clear my mind and move from paralysis to action.
I can’t think. Well, that’s not true. I guess the problem is that I am thinking too much. Well, that is not true, either. [...]

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by Dwayne Phillips
One task which many of us either choose or have thrust upon us is predicting the future. We usually perform this task poorly. An aid to declaring “the future will be thus” is reframing with a few introductory words.
The future will be awful.
There is no way out of this. We are doomed.
We will [...]

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by Dwayne Phillips
We often give power and control to our surroundings. This change of words returns those to me.
I have heard it many times and said it a few times. Things like:
I am under a lot of stress.
This is a stressful situation.
The stress here is too much.
Let’s look at the second statement a little closer [...]

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by Dwayne Phillips
Building systems, managing efforts, raising kids - these and many other worthwhile endeavors can be difficult. I see no good in attempting to make those things sounds easier than they are. The reframe discussed here changes the description of tasks to be attempted.
We will just…
I don’t know how many times I have heard [...]

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by Dwayne Phillips
Here is another example of a reframe. In this reframe I change an inability to do something into a choice to attempt it or attempt something else (for a while).
Here is another post on reframing things - changing a situation by merely changing the words we use to describe it.
I growing older by [...]

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by Dwayne Phillips
I have worked with many difficult people. Or is it that I have had difficulty working with many different people? The difference is that have used different words. I have reframed the situation. Reframing is a powerful tool when working with difficult people and in difficult situations.
About a year ago, I was looking [...]

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