Working Up

by Dwayne Phillips I find that there are three levels of knowing something. (1) understanding (2) using (3) explaining. Take care when assuming more than we know. I know a lot of things (there are many more things that I don’t know, but that is another matter). Over the years, I have been privileged to [...]

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by Dwayne Phillips Some people are undependable. Most of the time, I can choose to work with them or not. My choice can tell me much about myself. I know people who fit the title of this post. If they tell me they will be someplace at nine o’clock, I am almost certain they will [...]

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by Dwayne Phillips In an earlier post, I discussed difficult people and reframing statements. Once again, I meet a difficult person. Once again, I can choose how frame the situation, and once again I can choose how to live and work. I worked with a different set of people this week. Some of those people [...]

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by Dwayne Phillips There is a difference between gifts and contracts. Givers often confuse the two. I just read several blog posts and comments about giving money to “poor” people only to see them half an hour later buying lottery tickets with the money. They givers were incensed as the poor had promised to buy [...]

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by Dwayne Phillips Frenzied paralysis – so many things in my mind that I cannot do any of them. I make a list to clear my mind and move from paralysis to action. I can’t think. Well, that’s not true. I guess the problem is that I am thinking too much. Well, that is not [...]

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by Dwayne Phillips One task which many of us either choose or have thrust upon us is predicting the future. We usually perform this task poorly. An aid to declaring “the future will be thus” is reframing with a few introductory words. The future will be awful. There is no way out of this. We [...]

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by Dwayne Phillips We often give power and control to our surroundings. This change of words returns those to me. I have heard it many times and said it a few times. Things like: I am under a lot of stress. This is a stressful situation. The stress here is too much. Let’s look at [...]

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by Dwayne Phillips Building systems, managing efforts, raising kids – these and many other worthwhile endeavors can be difficult. I see no good in attempting to make those things sounds easier than they are. The reframe discussed here changes the description of tasks to be attempted. We will just… I don’t know how many times [...]

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by Dwayne Phillips Here is another example of a reframe. In this reframe I change an inability to do something into a choice to attempt it or attempt something else (for a while). Here is another post on reframing things – changing a situation by merely changing the words we use to describe it. I [...]

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by Dwayne Phillips I have worked with many difficult people. Or is it that I have had difficulty working with many different people? The difference is that have used different words. I have reframed the situation. Reframing is a powerful tool when working with difficult people and in difficult situations. About a year ago, I [...]

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