{"id":1478,"date":"2013-09-05T01:49:04","date_gmt":"2013-09-05T06:49:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/?p=1478"},"modified":"2013-08-14T12:59:25","modified_gmt":"2013-08-14T17:59:25","slug":"so-and-so-wont-attend","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/2013\/09\/so-and-so-wont-attend\/","title":{"rendered":"So-and-so Won&#8217;t Attend"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>by Dwayne Phillips<\/p>\n<p><strong>That one person won&#8217;t be attending today. Everyone sighs in relief. What does that tell us?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ve attended more meetings than most people. I have 28 years of government work to thank for that. There was almost always one or a few people scheduled to attend the meeting that I was happier if they missed.<\/p>\n<p>I was not alone. Most people were happy that so-and-so was absent. The meeting went faster; people were not upset, and we all left happier with more accomplished.<\/p>\n<p>What does this tell us?<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>the absent so-and-so was a real jerk<\/li>\n<li>the rest of us were jerks for hating so-and-so<\/li>\n<li>the rest of us didn&#8217;t understand so-and-so<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>I could go on. It seems that the question is,<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Who was wrong? That one so-and-so or everyone else?<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Math tells me that so-and-so was wrong and everyone else was right. Math, however, is not a person and was not involved in the emotions of the persons.<\/p>\n<p>Time tells me that everyone was at fault. So-and-so was doing something that some of us didn&#8217;t like. We, however, never said anything. We sat in the room with our fingers crossed under the table wishing that so-and-so would miss the meeting.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Crossing fingers and wishing are childish practices.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>(Note, I wrote childish not child-like.)<\/p>\n<p>Adults confront fears.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>by Dwayne Phillips That one person won&#8217;t be attending today. Everyone sighs in relief. What does that tell us? I&#8217;ve attended more meetings than most people. I have 28 years of government work to thank for that. There was almost always one or a few people scheduled to attend the meeting that I was happier [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[92,25,10],"tags":[209,147,133],"class_list":["post-1478","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-fear","category-meetings","category-people","tag-fear","tag-meetings","tag-people"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1478","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1478"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1478\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1479,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1478\/revisions\/1479"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1478"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1478"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1478"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}