by Dwayne Phillips<\/p>\n
Why is it that people ask questions when they don’t want to hear the answers?<\/strong><\/p>\n Let’s go in reverse order here.<\/p>\n Result:<\/strong> Dead silence.<\/p>\n My Answer:<\/strong> I want to work with good, smart people on difficult problems whose solution enhances national security.<\/p>\n Recruiter’s Question:<\/strong> What is it you like to do?<\/p>\n What has happened here? Just another case of, “I’m going to ask you a question, but I really don’t want you to answer it.”<\/p>\n This happens too often for me. I suppose I have this defect where I feel that if you ask me a question, you want an answer to it. I guess for the good of all mankind, my defect is rare. Mankind seems to function alright with this “hear my question, but don’t answer it” situation.<\/p>\n I guess this is a function of most people being uncomfortable with silence. Words must be flowing. I don’t know why they must be flowing, but again, I have this inherent but rare defect.<\/p>\n Here’s a suggestion:<\/strong> Say what you really feel. “I am uncomfortable with silence between the two of us. Please, talk to me a while. Anything will do. Anything.”<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" by Dwayne Phillips Why is it that people ask questions when they don’t want to hear the answers? Let’s go in reverse order here. Result: Dead silence. My Answer: I want to work with good, smart people on difficult problems whose solution enhances national security. Recruiter’s Question: What is it you like to do? What […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[119,32,247,108],"tags":[120,154,248,222],"class_list":["post-2488","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-adults","category-communication","category-questions","category-reaction","tag-adults","tag-communication","tag-questions","tag-reaction"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2488","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2488"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2488\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2489,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2488\/revisions\/2489"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2488"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2488"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2488"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}