{"id":258,"date":"2009-10-19T01:52:49","date_gmt":"2009-10-19T06:52:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/?p=258"},"modified":"2009-10-18T08:07:45","modified_gmt":"2009-10-18T13:07:45","slug":"the-fundamental-compliment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/2009\/10\/the-fundamental-compliment\/","title":{"rendered":"The Fundamental Compliment"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>by Dwayne Phillips<\/p>\n<p><strong>Managers and leaders should encourage their colleagues. Sometimes the well of compliments runs dry. There is, however, one fundamental compliment that is always appropriate.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>I was wandering through a new, unfamiliar, and uncomfortable place hoping to find something on which to anchor myself. Then I heard someone call my name. All was well.<\/p>\n<p>This happened to me a couple of weekends ago. <a href=\"http:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/2009\/10\/i-think-well-be-alright\/\">I was at a high school marching band competition<\/a>, the weather was lousy, I knew no one, I was wandering, and heard a young woman yell (they don&#8217;t call out in Mississippi, they yell), &#8220;Hey Uncle Dwayne.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>It was my niece. She was sitting with some friends, saw me, and thought enough of me to call to me and run down and give me a hug. I was impressed that she wasn&#8217;t embarrassed to let her friends know that she knew an old man like me. My niece gave me a fundamental compliment,<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>She recognized me<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Now to managing and leading. As a manager and leader, I find it important to compliment my colleagues &#8211; often. Okay, go out and buy a little paperback with a title like <em>99 Good Things to Say to People<\/em>. Cheaper yet, Google &#8220;good things to say to people.&#8221; (Google returned 164 million hits.) Perhaps we can say some of these things and sound sincere.<\/p>\n<p>Yet I sometimes exhaust the encouraging things I have to say to people. Recognition is one thing that encourages and never seems to wear out.<\/p>\n<p>Simply acknowledge that the other person exists. Use their name. I can even smile when I do these things.<\/p>\n<p>I think it was Dale Carnegie who once wrote about how a dog &#8220;smiles&#8221; and wags its tail when it meets someone it knows. Recognition, that is all.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>by Dwayne Phillips Managers and leaders should encourage their colleagues. Sometimes the well of compliments runs dry. There is, however, one fundamental compliment that is always appropriate. I was wandering through a new, unfamiliar, and uncomfortable place hoping to find something on which to anchor myself. Then I heard someone call my name. All was [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[32,10],"tags":[154,133],"class_list":["post-258","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-communication","category-people","tag-communication","tag-people"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/258","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=258"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/258\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":259,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/258\/revisions\/259"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=258"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=258"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=258"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}