by Dwayne Phillips<\/p>\n
We often give power and control to our surroundings. This change of words returns those to me.<\/strong><\/p>\n I have heard it many times and said it a few times. Things like:<\/p>\n I am under a lot of stress.<\/p>\n This is a stressful situation.<\/p>\n The stress here is too much.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n Let’s look at the second statement a little closer and try to reframe it.<\/p>\n This is a stressful situation.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n Try a reframe like:<\/p>\n I am distressed (or grieved or perplexed or anxious or some other adjective that fits for you).<\/p><\/blockquote>\n The first statement gives all power and might to the situation. It<\/em> is stressful. It<\/em> has its hold on me. It<\/em> cannot be stopped.<\/p>\n The second statement is about myself. I am feeling a negative something that I would rather not be feeling.<\/p>\n I prefer the second. In the reframe, the feelings are mine. I can do something to change the way I feel. I can do nothing and keep the feeling. The choice and the power to choose are mine, hence the control is mine.<\/p>\n The reframe has taken me from the situation is all powerful to I am all powerful. I like the latter much better.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" by Dwayne Phillips We often give power and control to our surroundings. This change of words returns those to me. I have heard it many times and said it a few times. Things like: I am under a lot of stress. This is a stressful situation. The stress here is too much. Let’s look at […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[21,51,60,5],"tags":[143,173,180,128],"class_list":["post-364","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-change","category-choose","category-reframe","category-writing","tag-change","tag-choose","tag-reframe","tag-writing"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/364","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=364"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/364\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":365,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/364\/revisions\/365"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=364"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=364"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=364"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}