{"id":788,"date":"2011-05-02T01:11:30","date_gmt":"2011-05-02T06:11:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/?p=788"},"modified":"2011-05-16T04:57:27","modified_gmt":"2011-05-16T09:57:27","slug":"change-the-world-0-03-pull-up-a-chair","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/2011\/05\/change-the-world-0-03-pull-up-a-chair\/","title":{"rendered":"Change the World &#8211; 0.03 &#8211; Pull Up a Chair"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>by Dwayne Phillips<\/p>\n<p><strong>There is something about physically leveling your height and moving close to another person that squelches arguments and improves communication.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>First, a story. One of my sons was a teenager. He was arguing with me about something. He was quite argumentative as a teen. He was sitting in a chair, and I was standing across the room. Something I learned somewhere clicked in my head.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>I stopped arguing.<\/li>\n<li>I grabbed a chair.<\/li>\n<li>I set the chair next to the one he was using.<\/li>\n<li>I spoke to him in a un-arguing tone of voice.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Life became much better for everyone. I wish I could explain how all this works, but I can&#8217;t. There is something about physically (1) leveling your height and (2) moving close to the other person.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, pull up a chair to the person who might be opposing you at a moment of disagreement. Their attitude may change; your attitude may change.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>by Dwayne Phillips There is something about physically leveling your height and moving close to another person that squelches arguments and improves communication. First, a story. One of my sons was a teenager. He was arguing with me about something. He was quite argumentative as a teen. He was sitting in a chair, and I [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[21],"tags":[143],"class_list":["post-788","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-change","tag-change"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/788","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=788"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/788\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":816,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/788\/revisions\/816"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=788"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=788"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dwaynephillips.net\/workingup\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=788"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}