Working Up

by Dwayne Phillips

Disagreements often fall under the cliche, “we are in violent agreement.” Go past the quick decision and converse with the other person.

Joe: I disagree with you.

Moe: Really?

Joe: Yes.

Moe: Are you sure?

Joe: Yes

Moe: Let’s step through this to ensure that we disagree.

Joe: ?

Moe: Let me try to understand you better.

Joe: I can see where that would help you.

Moe: Yes, it would. Perhaps we actually agree.

Joe: ?

Moe: You are a smart person. I would be happy if I learned that we agreed.

Joe: ?

Moe: Let’s start with what I heard you say.

Joe: ?

Moe: Sometimes my thinking clouds my hearing. Let me tell you what I heard, and then you correct me if I am mistaken.