by Dwayne Phillips
Sometimes no one will talk to me. There is a big message in the silence. All I have to do is find it.
I asked for input, but no one said anything.
I’ve heard that a few thousand times. The person is open for advice, criticism, anything from anyone. They are met with silence.
Sometimes silence is the loudest message
This is a tough one. Sometimes people don’t want to talk to me. That is their advice, criticism, anything. I may be
- unapproachable
- irrelevant
- frightening
- giving a bad physical odor
I could go on with the above list.
Listening to the silence
One question I ask myself is, “do I hear the silence.” I can stand around tapping my foot and leaning against the wall for hours. Then I shrug and walk away. But did I hear the message in the silence?
The message
What is the message? Well, the list above might contain it. I could think of other things for the list. I could speculate for days. I could drive myself crazy trying to think of the reason for the silence.
Try again
Stand up and say, “I haven’t heard from anyone. I am uneasy and a little bit scared about this. Please come to me and tell me why you didn’t come to me before.”
Sometimes that brings people. Often it does not. So I walk away with this message:
No one wants to talk to me at this time.
Notice, I did not conclude
- No one ever talks to me
- No one will ever talk to me
- I am a pathetic person
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