by Dwayne Phillips Why are we arguing? You, or was it me, started it. And how do we have necessary discussions without starting an argument? We often perform better when united than when divided. (Often, not always.) We seem to divide when we argue. Who started the argument? You did. You raised the subject of […]
Entries from December 2019
You Started It
December 30th, 2019 · No Comments
Tags: Conversation · Differences · Patience · Time
Wealth and a Bucket of Ice
December 26th, 2019 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Signs of wealth are all around us. Do we notice and act accordingly? I sit here on a Saturday morning in a coffee shop as usual “writing Pulitzer-winning essays” (what I tell passers by). And, as usual, someone is setting up the Bloody Mary bar. They put a few classes of ingredients […]
Tags: Observation · Wealth
Solutions Already Exist
December 23rd, 2019 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Many of our problems already have solutions in waiting. And many of these are effective and inexpensive. Person A: My kid won’t stop chewing on fill-in-the-blank. Person B: Put a drop of fill-in-the-other-blank on it. It will taste bad, and the kid will stop chewing on it. Person A: Oh. … Person […]
Tags: Humility · Problems · Questions · Simple · Solutions
In Praise of the Hallmark Channel: Promise for Communicators
December 19th, 2019 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips In bad times, the storyteller will always have a job. Someone famous said this, I don’t remember who. Look at Hollywood in the great depression. Look at polarized, fussy America today. It began in 2016 during the (un)presidential campaign and continues. The Hallmark Channel makes predictable romantic movies. Their ratings are up […]
Tags: Alternatives · Communication · Hope
The Price of Tools and the Place of Work
December 16th, 2019 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Once again, the price of tools has fallen dramatically. This has shifted the place of work, and we are struggling to adapt. A few weeks ago, I went to a seminar where I connected a $100 gadget from Nvidia to a four-year-old $1,000 portable computer from Apple, used a bunch of $0 […]
Tags: Agility · Alternatives · Change · Tools · Trust · Work
Let’s Not Tell Them…
December 12th, 2019 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips When we say, “Let’s not tell them (this yet)…” We have learned exactly what we should tell “them” first. There are the hushed tones. “In this meeting, we want to get across these things, but let’s all keep in mind that we don’t want to tell them about…” This is one variation […]
Tags: Breathe · Communication · Fear
Adult Discussions
December 9th, 2019 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Sometimes some persons should not be in the room during discussions. You may stay in the room if you like. It is obvious from your reaction that this is all above your head. Please keep quiet. Learning is permitted, but interruption is discouraged. This is harsh. Sometimes it is necessary. Greater learning […]
Tags: Adults · Learning · Work
Leadership by Observed Benefit
December 5th, 2019 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips I take a first attempt at explaining a different concept of leadership. The potential follower sees good in the life of another person. What are you doing that brings that? I want to do that as well. There are many models, concepts, and explanations of leadership. A few are: Leadership by Example: […]
Tags: Following · Leadership · Practice
Really Bad and Broken
December 2nd, 2019 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips If something is really bad, it is probably broken, not just really bad. Remedies are available. I once knew a person at work who hated vegetables. He knew, however, that he should eat some now and then because, as everyone will tell you, vegetables “are good for you.” So, one day he […]
Tags: Error · Expectations · Failure · General Systems Thinking · Systems