Working Up

Dwayne Phillips

We can tell when we have affected another person by observing their energy.

One of the better questions to ask when trying to convince or teach or somehow affect another person is, “When do they gain energy?”

Consider:

At what point does the other person change their posture? That is the energy. That is the topic that is important to them.

When do they:

• raise their voice
• sit up straight
• bolt up
• stand up
• stop breathing
• look over their glasses
• widen their eyes
• change the expression on their face
• this list goes on and one.

All these actions require energy. If the action occurs, the other person experienced a jolt of energy. I have affected them in some way. I now know what they want to discuss, what they want, what they will work towards.

How do I notice that energy? By noticing. By observing. By putting some of my energy into the effort.

Some folks are much better at this noticing that me. I have to try harder, but I can do it. I find that most persons can as well.