by Dwayne Phillips An exercise to do at work or anywhere that more than one person gathers from time to time. Caution: this is not for the faint of heart. Here is something to do at work or anywhere that more than one person gathers from time to time: Sit in a circle. Go around […]
Entries Tagged as 'Communication'
Wishes
April 5th, 2018 · No Comments
Tags: Communication · Wishes · Work
We Like Agile, Until We Don’t
January 8th, 2018 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips In Agile Development, we are supposed to talk to one another each day. Sometimes, however, we just didn’t sign up for this talking stuff. In Agile Development, we are supposed to talk to other persons. We are supposed to sit next to other persons and work with them. All of us are […]
Tags: Agility · Communication · Culture · Programming
Interpersonal Communication for Scientists and Engineers
December 28th, 2017 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips The stereotype of the scientist and engineer is someone who would rather be with technical things than people. Here are a few tips. As an engineer, this holds for scientists as well, there is one fundamental question we must always be prepared to answer (two words): what’cha doin? The answer does not […]
Tags: Communication
I’m not Testing, Just Noticing
December 21st, 2017 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Sometimes I fill the role of the “just notice-er.” Perhaps that should be an official title in systems development. I was preparing a demonstration of software we developed in house. Something wasn’t happening as I expected. I asked a couple of the programmers to look over my shoulder. “Look at this,” I […]
Tags: Communication · Conversation · Notice · Systems · Testing
I Don’t Want to Hurt Your Feelings, but…
December 14th, 2017 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Drop the “but.” It erases all previous words. Use a period instead. I said: I don’t want to hurt you feelings, but, we need to change how we do things here. He heard: we, actually YOU, need to change how we do things here. Funny how the word “but” works in conversation. […]
Tags: Communication · Conversation · Word
Stop Listening, Don’t Wonder
December 4th, 2017 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips I write this one with some hesitancy as there is always something to be learned by continually listening. Sometimes, however, listen for meta messages, not the message as the messenger is clearly confused. Sometimes the best thing to do is stop listening—for now. And also, don’t waste time and energy wondering about […]
Tags: Communication
Let’s Draw a Picture
November 6th, 2017 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips An old technique that always surfaces confusion and moves us towards clarity. Me: Let’s draw a picture of this so I can understand it better. Person A: We don’t need to waste time with that. We all know what it is. …a little while later… Person A: See, we set it up […]
Tags: Analysis · Communication · Learning
An Interaction Exercise
November 2nd, 2017 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Here is a simple exercise you can use with your team to learn something about how well you work together. Step 1: Get a deck of playing cards. Step 2: Hand every person on your team some cards. Hand some person a couple of cards and hand some persons a dozen cards. […]
Tags: Communication · Consulting · Group · Management · Meetings
Thank You Fake News and Social Media, We Needed a New Excuse
October 26th, 2017 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Why disdain fake news and social media? Let’s embrace it for what it gives us—a new excuse. I recently learned that fake news on social media controls the world. All money flows in a direction it flows because it is directed by fake news. All elections are won by fake news purveyors. […]
Tags: Communication · Excuses
Say it Aloud First (in a safe place)
October 16th, 2017 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Advice on preparing to bring a concept to others. I have a great idea! I have a informed observation! I have something that others should hear or read! It’s obviously worthwhile. What should I do first? Say it aloud (in a safe place). There is something about saying the words aloud that […]
Tags: Communication · Ideas · Learning