by Dwayne Phillips Each of us has the ability to change something in a direction which we desire. I guess this post is a pep talk or an admonition to “buck up sissy pants” (I think I heard that phrase on a TV show). Unhappy with the current situation? I am. Well, things don’t have […]
Entries Tagged as 'Conversation'
Things Don’t Have to Be This Way
May 15th, 2025 · No Comments
Tags: Adults · Change · Communication · Conversation · Fear · Influence
Obligations
February 20th, 2025 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Other persons are not obligated to do things for me (as much as I wish). I am not obligated to do things for other persons (as much as they wish). I wish people would fulfill their obligations to me. I mean, look at what I have done for them. Surely, they will […]
Tags: Adults · Commitment · Conversation · Error · Ethics · Expectations · Technical Debt
I Will Do Less Than I Can
October 24th, 2024 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips The title is the hallmark of a person in a bureaucracy. Do less; just get by. I have worked in and around government agencies for four decades or more. Gosh, that’s a lot. The title of this little post summarizes the mean of the bell curve in these places. Let’s expand a […]
Tags: Commitment · Conversation · Excuses · Government · Leadership · Learning · Systems
When the Audience Knows More
October 10th, 2024 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Sometimes, the audience knows more than the designation teacher or expert. Great. There is much good that can come from this. Let’s discuss teaching adults or at least a situation where someone says you are the teacher and everyone else in the room is an adult. It is common for one of […]
Tags: Adults · Authentic · Conversation · Honesty · Learning · Teaching
Communications Channels and Checks
July 8th, 2024 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Let not check a communications channel using that same communications channel. It is pretty silly to do so. Since the great pandemic of the early 2020s, I have been part of countless ZoomerTeams meetings. Almost every one starts with, “Can everyone hear me?” Let’s pause and think. If a participant cannot hear […]
Tags: Appearances · Clarity · Communication · Conversation · Respect · Thinking
John, I am Upset
February 8th, 2024 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Here is one way to begin what is likely to be an unpleasant conversation. It lessens the unpleasantness and moves toward a more productive conversation. Let’s begin with, “John, I am upset.” (Substitute the other person’s name for John. That was the most alias of names I could find.) There, said the […]
Tags: Adults · Communication · Context · Conversation · Wishes
Sharing Risk: What Do You Have to Lose?
January 25th, 2024 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips In our personal lives, we often take all the risk without asking others to share it. The basic, but rarely asked, question is, “What does each person have to lose?” I am sitting here sipping coffee pondering what to do. Someone is asking me to wait, and wait, and wait. Perhaps they […]
Tags: Accountability · Alternatives · Conversation · Differences · Economics · Respect · Risk
The Local Phone Call
January 11th, 2024 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips There was a time when a local phone call was special. Today, we have social media. Same thing, but we tend to use it differently. We don’t have to. Many years ago there was such a thing as a long-distance phone call and a local phone call. The long-distance call was charged […]
Tags: Choose · Conversation · Internet · People
Jargon
December 14th, 2023 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips We continue to use too much jargon. Are we illiterate or just too lazy to type words? I am reviewing materials for a certification. Gosh, I am too old for this, but whatever. I won’t mention the name of the certification. I you continue reading this post, you can probably guess which […]
Tags: Brevity · Clarity · Communication · Conversation · Word · Writing
Apology
July 31st, 2023 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips An apology is just that—an apology. It is neither an explanation nor a justification. Rats! An apology is simple: I did this wrong. I am sorry for that. I ask your forgiveness. An apology does not contain an explanation: I was trying to do such-and-such and … An apology does not contain […]
Tags: Accountability · Adults · Authentic · Change · Communication · Conversation · Error · Ethics · Excuses · Honesty