by Dwayne Phillips Children use excuses. Adults speak candidly. Children love to use convenient excuses. Adults state what is actually happening. Some people call that being “blunt” or “candid.” I tend to like “candid.” Convenient excuses allow us to “be nice” and talk around situations instead of facing them. Candor, however, exposes the real issue […]
Entries Tagged as 'Culture'
Excuses, Adults, and Children
November 8th, 2012 · No Comments
Tags: Choose · Communication · Culture
Things Tugging at Me and Rules
July 16th, 2012 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips When you feel something tugging at you on the inside, you have hit a personal rule. Recently, I had three gentlemen riding around with me in my van. We were visiting other office buildings in our area. Our first stop was for lunch at an bagel place. We had sandwiches and soup, […]
Tags: Change · Choose · Culture
Who is in Charge Here?
June 7th, 2012 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Longevity almost always wins over positions of authority. A conversation: Person A: You must do what I say because I am a VP or deputy under assistant director of something or other. Person B: Really? Person A: Yes. Person B: Let’s see, I have 15 years to retirement and the average above […]
Tags: Culture · Management · People
Brogrammers and other Dysfunction
April 23rd, 2012 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips There is a trend lately for young male programmers to act like fraternity pledges. This is just the last in a long line of dysfunction in computer science. The percentage of female computer science graduates and professional programmers is declining. It has been in decline for several decades. There is much speculation […]
Tags: Computing · Culture · Family · Management
Evaluations: Performance or Friends?
March 26th, 2012 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Same old story – it is not what you know, but who you know that counts. People can’t measure performance. Let me restate that one – people don’t want to measure performance. That is too much work. Instead, people go to their feelings. They ask, “When I consider Dwayne’s performance, do I […]
Tags: Culture · Management
Pinterest and Interest
March 6th, 2012 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Of all the things I have done recently, the one that is garnering the most interest online is Pinterst. Go figure. I don’t understand this, but people are paying attention to my “pins” (I think that is the right term) on Pinterest. (I just realized that Pinterest is a combination of “pin” […]
Tags: Blog · Communication · Culture
The Depleted Dry-Erase Marker
February 23rd, 2012 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips We tend to treasure failed tools. It is as if the tool becomes part of me. One remedy is to realize that a tool I use is just that, a tool I use. It is not me. I don’t know how many times I have seen it. A person is standing at […]
We All Want Cake (so give everyone cake)
February 6th, 2012 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips We seem to believe that special things are for special people. And we all want to be a special person. We can employ this idea to surround ourselves with special people. A few years ago I was at a high school track meet. There was this little girl at the concession stand. […]
Sources of Fear
February 2nd, 2012 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips We are afraid of some things. Often, however, the heart of the fear is not the stated fear. Finding the source of fear can help us cope with it. Am I afraid of heights? No, but I am afraid of falling off a tall building. Many of us have fears. There is […]
Tags: Culture · Fear · Writing
The Rich-Poor Travel Gap
January 23rd, 2012 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips The rich-poor gap widens in the area of travel. Seeing other places and other people is a big experience that the rich enjoy and the poor lack. I live in Fairfax County, Virginia. This is one of the richest counties in America. I noticed recently that the kids in high school and […]