by Dwayne Phillips Let’s review some basics on telling another person about something they do and did that affects me and us. The basis of this post comes from consultant and writer Esther Derby. Over the years, we’ve discussed this topic, and I have learned much. I hope to pass along some of Esther’s thoughts. […]
Entries Tagged as 'Talk'
About the Other Day: Feedback
August 5th, 2024 · No Comments
Tags: Adapting · Change · Communication · Management · People · Talk
In Praise of Embarrassment
July 25th, 2024 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips I am happy to learn that embarrassment still exists. We still aspire. I recently read an article about how people are not asking Siri and the like questions in public by voice. They type the questions instead of saying them aloud. They are a bit embarrassed to let other people hear their […]
Tags: Adapting · Appearances · Improvement · Self · Simple · Talk · Thinking · Visibility
An Educated Guess
November 27th, 2023 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Sometimes it is worth the effort to identify the noun and the adjective. This is an educated guess. The word “guess” is a noun. The word “educated” is an adjective. Nouns are usually facts (a tree is a tree). Adjectives are usually chosen by a person and are subjective (what is a […]
Tags: Clarity · Language · Logic · Reframe · Talk · Thinking · Vocabulary
Omission
January 2nd, 2023 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips No one lied, they just omitted some information. There are ways to find the omissions and those things are some of the more important pieces of information we need. No one lied, they just omitted a few bits and pieces of information. And, oh, if we had those bits and pieces of […]
Tags: Appearances · Communication · Ethics · Fear · Honesty · Information · Questions · Talk
Time to React
June 6th, 2022 · No Comments
By Dwayne Phillips Time is a marvelous tool. Allow time between an action or event and the reaction or the feedback for the event. I have spoken at large gatherings many times in my career (500 or 600 persons attending, most of them staying awake). I enjoy it. When I am finished speaking, I am […]
Tags: Communication · Event · Listening · Reaction · Talk · Time
Defining Jargon in Terms of Jargon
April 11th, 2022 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips We invent new ways of being lazy in communicating. It sort of sets us apart from the ignorant masses. I did a Google search on “Kubernetes.” The result: Kubernetes, also known as K8s, is an open-source system for automating deployment, scaling, and management of containerized applications. Oh, containerized applications. Of course. Jargon […]
Tags: Accountability · Clarity · Communication · General Systems Thinking · Talk · Teaching
Another Silly Silence Agreement
April 4th, 2022 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips We seem to create silly rules about silence. This is another one of those, “What happens here stays here.” We create silly rules about silence. I wrote about one earlier in this blog, “Silence is agreement.” Nonsense. Another that just came to mind is, “What is said here stays here.” That permits […]
Tags: Accountability · Adults · Agreement · Meetings · Talk
Internet Discussion Chaos and Semi-Public Groups
April 1st, 2021 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Where will we go for discourse on the Internet? Semi-public groups for forums work. I like Seth Godin’s recent short essay on trust and how folks use the Internet. Godin described the early (1970s) online interaction as, “Because each of these groups were high-trust communities, it was easy to conclude that the […]
Tags: Adults · Conversation · Ideas · Internet · Respect · Talk · Trust · Vocabulary
Let Me Explain Myself, Then I Might Understand Myself
March 1st, 2021 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips There is much good in the act of sitting down with another person and explaining to them what I think I am doing. It isn’t always easy to explain to another person what I am about to do. It is, however, a good use of time. That act usually shows me what […]
Tags: Communication · Concepts · Ideas · Talk · Visibility
The Art of Requesting Assistance
June 25th, 2020 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips We all need assistance in our work. There are requests for assistance that bring assistance. There are requests for assistance that bring nothing. We all need assistance in our work. Persons who can do their job well all the time are stalled in a job that doesn’t challenge them. There are requests […]