by Dwayne Phillips Hiding from bad news is a common situation. I had to realize, however, that worse than bad news was no news. Yes, I did this. I was managing a project where I would hide in the bathroom. Everything was awful. The only place I could go and not hear terrible news was […]
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Hiding in the Bathroom
May 7th, 2018 · No Comments
Tags: Communication · Failure · Information · Reframe
Dental School or Pulling Information
April 30th, 2018 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Pulling information from colleagues can sometimes seem like pulling teeth. Why don’t they tell me what they are doing? Because “they” can’t read “my” mind. They don’t know what I feel is important today, what my boss is pinging on me for today. I have to ask. I have to pull the […]
Tags: Authentic · Communication · Conversation · Listening
Please Draw Me a Picture of This
April 16th, 2018 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips If we can’t provide a simple representation of a system, perhaps we have a mess and not a system. A: Can you draw me a picture of this? Something that shows how all the parts fit together? B: Uh, well, no. No one has ever asked for such. A: Well, I’m new […]
Tags: Communication · Conversation · Systems · Technology · Visibility
The Problem Describer and the Problem Solver
April 9th, 2018 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips In many cases it is a bad idea to have the problem solver in the room when a problem describer describes a problem for the first time. About a generation ago, there was a movie about engineers and scientists at work in a small tech company. A couple of consultants arrive and […]
Tags: Communication · General Systems Thinking · Problems · Time
Wishes
April 5th, 2018 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips An exercise to do at work or anywhere that more than one person gathers from time to time. Caution: this is not for the faint of heart. Here is something to do at work or anywhere that more than one person gathers from time to time: Sit in a circle. Go around […]
Tags: Communication · Wishes · Work
We Like Agile, Until We Don’t
January 8th, 2018 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips In Agile Development, we are supposed to talk to one another each day. Sometimes, however, we just didn’t sign up for this talking stuff. In Agile Development, we are supposed to talk to other persons. We are supposed to sit next to other persons and work with them. All of us are […]
Tags: Agility · Communication · Culture · Programming
Interpersonal Communication for Scientists and Engineers
December 28th, 2017 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips The stereotype of the scientist and engineer is someone who would rather be with technical things than people. Here are a few tips. As an engineer, this holds for scientists as well, there is one fundamental question we must always be prepared to answer (two words): what’cha doin? The answer does not […]
Tags: Communication
I’m not Testing, Just Noticing
December 21st, 2017 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Sometimes I fill the role of the “just notice-er.” Perhaps that should be an official title in systems development. I was preparing a demonstration of software we developed in house. Something wasn’t happening as I expected. I asked a couple of the programmers to look over my shoulder. “Look at this,” I […]
Tags: Communication · Conversation · Notice · Systems · Testing
I Don’t Want to Hurt Your Feelings, but…
December 14th, 2017 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Drop the “but.” It erases all previous words. Use a period instead. I said: I don’t want to hurt you feelings, but, we need to change how we do things here. He heard: we, actually YOU, need to change how we do things here. Funny how the word “but” works in conversation. […]
Tags: Communication · Conversation · Word
Stop Listening, Don’t Wonder
December 4th, 2017 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips I write this one with some hesitancy as there is always something to be learned by continually listening. Sometimes, however, listen for meta messages, not the message as the messenger is clearly confused. Sometimes the best thing to do is stop listening—for now. And also, don’t waste time and energy wondering about […]
Tags: Communication