by Dwayne Phillips This is an old saying told to me many, many years ago. It is true today more than ever. Recent “reports” tell me that some Federal agencies are arresting folks who are merely trying to help their neighbors. And I hear of nice folks pointing guns at other Americans who are temporary […]
Entries Tagged as 'Listening'
Half of What You See, None of What You Hear
December 2nd, 2024 · No Comments
Tags: Choose · Clarity · Expectations · General Systems Thinking · Information · Learning · Listening
Listen to Understand vs Listen to Reply
November 25th, 2024 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips An old adage that still applies today as long as we apply it wisely. Some wise and famous person stated the title of this post long ago, I think. Still, it bears repeating in one variation or another. I am here to tell you something. What I have to say is important. […]
Tags: Communication · Learning · Listening · Talk
Society Media
November 11th, 2024 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Forget the term “social media.” We are fussing about society media in which everyone in society has a tall soapbox on which to stand and shout. And many of us don’t like that. It’s not social media—it is Society Media, in which everyone can now shout as loud as Walter Cronkite used […]
Tags: Communication · Information · Learning · Listening · Respect · Teaching · Writing
The First Five Minutes
June 13th, 2024 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips An old adage, one that I have experienced to be true, is that a person will tell another person the solution to all their problems in the first five minutes of the first conversation. Many years ago, an experienced consultant told me, “The client will tell the consultant the solution to all […]
Tags: Consulting · Learning · Listening · Problems · Solutions
I Don’t Understand What You Are Saying
June 10th, 2024 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Sometimes we just don’t understand when someone else doesn’t understand. I was recently attending a meeting online. This was one of those ZoomerTeams things where the PowerPoint was on the screen and the presenter was talking in a room with one of those microphones on the conference table. I couldn’t understand what […]
Tags: Clarity · Communication · Expectations · Honesty · Humility · Listening · Respect
Nap More, Talk Less
January 18th, 2024 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Along with the sage advice, “listen more, talk less,” I add, “nap more, talk less.” “People who nap in the day are lazy.” My mother told me that countless times. Sometimes I disagree with things my mother told me. Now to the title of the post: before opening mouth, rest. Fatigue always […]
Tags: Communication · Fatigue · Learning · Listening · Rest · Writing
One Facilitator, Nine Teachers, and Ten Learners
August 31st, 2023 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Facilitated learning sessions offer big benefits. They are not as easy to arrange, but are much better than other methods. There are various ways to conduct classes and learning. The usual method is to have one teacher and nine students. The teacher talks, the students listen (we hope), and the students learn […]
Tags: Adults · Change · Education · Learning · Listening · Teaching
The CONOPS
December 12th, 2022 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips This is a reminder of one of the fundamental documents or documentations in creating systems that delight users. It is the Concept of Operations. First things first. We want to provide a system that delights users. Where do we start? Let’s talk with the users; watch the users; learn from the users, […]
Tags: Communication · Concepts · Conversation · Engineering · General Systems Thinking · Listening · Systems
Vin Scully, Neighbor – again
August 8th, 2022 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Vin Scully died last week. He retired almost six years ago. I wrote about him in September 2016. Here is a repeat of that. I won’t hear my old neighbor’s voice anymore. Vin Scully retires. It was 40-something years ago. I was a kid playing in the back yard in southern California. […]
Tags: America · Childhood · Conversation · Family · Life · Listening · Remember
Time to React
June 6th, 2022 · No Comments
By Dwayne Phillips Time is a marvelous tool. Allow time between an action or event and the reaction or the feedback for the event. I have spoken at large gatherings many times in my career (500 or 600 persons attending, most of them staying awake). I enjoy it. When I am finished speaking, I am […]
Tags: Communication · Event · Listening · Reaction · Talk · Time