by Dwayne Phillips Sometimes the better solution is to not provide a solution. After all, who decided that this was a problem and I was the person to solve it? “Here is your problem, and here is my solution. Use it,” said a confident problem solver. I’m a smart guy. I can see things others […]
Entries Tagged as 'Self'
The Don’t-Provide-A-Solution Solution
August 12th, 2024 · No Comments
Tags: Other · Problems · Review · Self · Solutions
In Praise of Embarrassment
July 25th, 2024 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips I am happy to learn that embarrassment still exists. We still aspire. I recently read an article about how people are not asking Siri and the like questions in public by voice. They type the questions instead of saying them aloud. They are a bit embarrassed to let other people hear their […]
Tags: Adapting · Appearances · Improvement · Self · Simple · Talk · Thinking · Visibility
Childhood Instructions Carried Into Adulthood
December 4th, 2023 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Most of us received many instructions in childhood. Now that we are in adulthood, are we still tying ourselves to instructions meant for children? Here is something I was told as a child (and I have told many children): Look both ways before crossing the street. I still recommend this instruction for […]
Tags: Adults · Change · Childhood · Decide · Nap · Self
Someone Else’s Experience
August 21st, 2023 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips People have their own experiences. Assuming their experience denies them as a person. Try to avoid such. Each person has their own experience with something. It is often the case that several people have similar experiences. That gives me the luxury of describing some “average” experience and continuing to satisfy the “average” […]
Tags: Adults · Expectations · Learning · Other · Patience · Self
Do that Tomorrow, Too
October 7th, 2021 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips A phrase to add to every assignment or action item or anything that goes on a “to do” list. Years ago, author and consultant Jerry Weinberg gave an assignment to attendees of his writing seminar. It was something like: Think of what you should write today. Write that. Do that tomorrow, too. […]
Tags: Change · Decide · Experiment · Growth · Planning · Self · Simple
Nouns or Verbs, Things or Actions
June 14th, 2021 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips The words we use most often provide some indication of our selves. Try some experiments. Learn. Adjust. Try this: right now, write ten words on whatever is in front of you. Napkin. Table cloth. Back of your hand. How many of those ten are nouns? How many are verbs? This one is […]
Tags: Communication · Experiment · Ideas · Language · Patterns · Play · Self
And I was There
December 21st, 2020 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips We tend to inflate events when we participate in them. We do this at our peril in professional as well as personal situations. The 2020 election was one of the most important in history. And I voted in it. The pandemic was one of the biggest events in the history of mankind. […]
Tags: Self
Placating and Reversing Roles
July 20th, 2020 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips An age-old question that won’t seem to go away. Odd how things come around. I keep a file with ideas for blog posts. I jotted some notes for this post about six months ago. I was perusing that file and noticed this. While the context of that note jotting months ago was […]
Tags: Congruence · Context · Other · Self