by Dwayne Phillips Vin Scully died last week. He retired almost six years ago. I wrote about him in September 2016. Here is a repeat of that. I won’t hear my old neighbor’s voice anymore. Vin Scully retires. It was 40-something years ago. I was a kid playing in the back yard in southern California. […]
Vin Scully, Neighbor – again
August 8th, 2022 · No Comments
Tags: America · Childhood · Conversation · Family · Life · Listening · Remember
Yes-No Questions
May 26th, 2022 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips The basic yes-no question is quite easy to answer. It is either “yes” or “no.” Recognizing the question is a bit more difficult, but not impossible. There is a type of question for which the answer is either “yes” or “no.” It is quite easy to answer as there are only two […]
Tags: Analysis · Communication · Conversation · Questions · Trust
The Conversations Before the Meeting
April 25th, 2022 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips This discusses a technique that helps move “decision meetings” in a favorable direction. You spend time to save time. It works more often than not. I have been assigned the task of presenting an idea to a meeting of decision makers. Yes, many organizations still have groups of decision makers, and they […]
Tags: Adapting · Communication · Conversation · Decide · Ideas · Management · Meetings · Process
You Should Not Have Told Me That
September 9th, 2021 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips If you want something in return for something, state that contract first. Person A: Guess what? blah blah blah. Person B: Oh my goodness. Person A: You can’t tell anyone what I just told you. Person B: Why not? Person A: Because. Person B: You should have stated the non-disclosure agreement before […]
Tags: Agreement · Commitment · Conversation · Ethics · Trust
Why Persons Don’t Become Vaccinated and How to Convince Them to be Vaccinated
August 19th, 2021 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Many persons want many other persons to become vaccinated. Their methods, however, are achieving the opposite. “Become vaccinated,” is an oft-heard cry. (Actually, I read “get vaccinated” which brings cringes of pain to those of us who know the meaning of words.) And there are many who do not get the vaccine […]
Tags: Breathe · Communication · Conversation · Health · Listening · Patience · Please · Respect · Science · Virus
Anonymity in the Masked Society
April 19th, 2021 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips All this mask wearing allows me to not recognize and not talk to people when I’d rather just keep doing things I’d rather just keep doing. The year of the virus has brought us many changes. Let’s consider one that I discovered recently and like (on those occasions when I like it). […]
Tags: Alternatives · Appearances · Conversation · Reaction · Virus
Internet Discussion Chaos and Semi-Public Groups
April 1st, 2021 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Where will we go for discourse on the Internet? Semi-public groups for forums work. I like Seth Godin’s recent short essay on trust and how folks use the Internet. Godin described the early (1970s) online interaction as, “Because each of these groups were high-trust communities, it was easy to conclude that the […]
Tags: Adults · Conversation · Ideas · Internet · Respect · Talk · Trust · Vocabulary
Just do It! Are You Kidding?
November 19th, 2020 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips We “just” … Nothing is easy. We might as well describe the situation as it is. Everything is easy if someone else is supposed to do it. When I have to do it, not so easy. Yet, we describe things as easy. We’ll just do this and that and be done with […]
Tags: Authentic · Competence · Conversation · Expectations · Humility · Word
Silence is Complicity (not)
September 14th, 2020 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips We have another variation of the “silence is agreement” notion. Let’s refute that notion—again. Looking back through this blog, it appears that I have written about this topic every four years. Once in 2012, once in 2016, so I guess it is time again. This time around “silence is complicity” is being […]
Tags: Appearances · Communication · Conversation · Justice · Respect · Thinking
I Want to Talking to You about Something
May 11th, 2020 · No Comments
by Dwayne Phillips Sometimes, I want to talk with another person about something. Is that what I really want? I have heard a concern expressed in many ways, including: We haven’t talked about this We need to talk about this sometime I want to talk about this I want to tell you something These are […]
Tags: Communication · Conversation · Reaction · Talk · Uncategorized · Wishes